Fantasy Boyfriends Never Really Happen
Prince Charming. He’s the man every woman wants to be with and the one that every man wants to be. Throughout the history of popular culture, Prince Charming has been designed to be the ideal mate for virtually every person on the planet. He’s literally something that was created to meet the textbook definition of the word “perfect.”
Single people all over the world spend time looking for Prince Charming, Mr. Right or whatever other term you’d like to use on a daily basis. The sad fact of the matter is, however, that they’re probably wasting their time. There are a number of different reasons why you’ll never find Prince Charming that are more than worth exploring. Are you ready to step out of the Cinderella fantasy?
OK, let’s jump right in!
1. You’re Not Willing to Broaden Your Horizons
If the only people you’re willing to date are those that can stand toe to toe with the ideal of Prince Charming, guess what – you’re severely limiting the total population of people that you’re willing to spend time with. Part of the reason Prince Charming is so popular is because he’s a rare character type, especially in fiction. He’s perfect in every single way, from looks to chivalry and everything in between. If everyone were like Prince Charming, the qualities that he exudes would cease to be truly special – which is a large part of what you’re looking for in the first place.
2. You’re Looking in the Wrong Place
Part of the reason why you’re after a “Prince Charming type” is because you think that he (or more accurately, what he represents) is just that – you’re type. The issue is that sometimes people don’t realize the positive of a situation even when it’s right in front of them. If you’re only willing to date within that rigid definition of “type,” you’re excluding a large number of different people who you may have a great time with. The issue is that you’ll never know whether you’ll actually like those people or not, because on the surface they don’t obviously fall into the “Prince Charming” category.
3. The Double Edged Sword of Prince Charming
One of the reasons why people are so attracted to the Prince Charming type is because, at least on the surface, he’s absolutely perfect in every way. Therefore, when you look for a mate you’re putting that one quality – perfection – above all others. That isn’t exactly an easy feat to live up to. The issue is that if you were lucky enough to find your Prince Charming, it stands to reason that he’d probably be looking for essentially the same thing – his Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, so to speak.
How many people could truly and honestly say that they’d live up to that rigid expectation? Almost everyone wouldn’t, and the ones who say they would are probably lying. One of the main reasons why you will never find Prince Charming is because you yourself are not the perfect encapsulation of everything that he’d be looking for in a mate – nor should you be. Flaws and blemishes are what make us interesting. A society filled with perfect individuals is something akin to a bleak, dystopian science fiction novel and should probably be avoided at all costs.
4. “Prince Charming” Probably Isn’t All He’s Cracked Up To Be
The old saying “be careful what you wish for” certainly comes to mind when you think about Prince Charming. Maybe a seemingly-endless supply of chivalry would be great – for a day or two. After six weeks of living with “Mr. Perfect,” you’d probably start to wish you had found someone a little less perfect and a little more interesting during your travels. Sometimes, you have to just roll with it, similar to how Channing Tatum has learned to in the course of his dating life.
5. Prince Charming Doesn’t Exist
To boil all of these reasons down to one simple concept, the basic fact of the matter is that you’ll never find Prince Charming because he literally doesn’t exist. He’s not just something out of a fairy tale – he literally is a fairy tale. Real people have character flaws – it’s a large part of what makes us human. Not every person is going to be perfect. If your expectations are so high that you’ll only even consider settling down with someone that compares favorably to a fictional character, you’ll really only accomplish one thing: you’ll guarantee that you’ll be perpetually single for the foreseeable future.
Trying to find your prince charming is like trying to find a needle in the haystack. No guy can ever really live up to this storybook fantasy of a man. Interestingly enough, many women and men find themselves chasing after their ideal mate, only to find out that men are real human beings with real human flaws.
If this point still confuses you, it may be time for some counseling to help create realistic expectations.