How to Avoid the Friend Zone: 5 Tips!

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Avoid the Friend Zone

You must avoid the friend zone if you want to have any success with dating. Most guys who end up in the friend zone don’t know how they got there. It can be devastating to confess your feelings to a girl and find out she does not feel the same as you.

If you want to learn how to avoid the friend zone, including the proverbial friends with benefits, you have to learn the most common reasons guys find themselves there in the first place. Guys end up in there for making a move too soon or waiting too long to make a move.

1. Making a Move Too Soon

Making a move too soon will get you put in the friend zone. This happens because attraction works differently for women than it does for men. Men are attracted to women based on visual cues. They know as soon as they see a woman whether or not they are attracted to her. It does not work this way for women. Women are mostly attracted to men based on behavioral cues.

They are attracted to confidence and self-esteem. As a result, a woman has to get to know a guy’s personality to determine if she is attracted to him. The amount of time this takes varies from person to person. But if a guy makes a move before a woman has the chance to decide if she is attracted to him, she will either rejected him or place him in the friend zone.

2. Waiting Too Long to Make a Move

Guys also end up in the friend zone for taking too long to make a move. When you take too long to make a move, women will assume you are not interested. They might wait for a while, but they will eventually move on. If you try to make a move after the window of attraction is closed, you will end up in the friend zone. It is devastating to find out you could have had the women of your dreams if you had acted sooner.

3. The Window of Attraction

If you take too long to make a move, you will end up in the friend zone. But you will also find yourself in the friend zone if you make a move too soon. So, the solution is to make your intent clear when the window of attraction is open. There is no way to know with complete certainty if a girl is attracted to you before you voice your intent, but there are some signs and signals that can give you an idea.

If a girl is attracted to you, she will usually touch her hair and smile. It is also a good sign if she puts effort into the conversation and shows that she wants to talk to you. However, it is a bad sign if she takes you to hang out with her girlfriends, talks to you about other guys, or otherwise treats you as she would treat her female friends.

4. Building attraction

Now, it’s time to learn about building attraction. When you know how to build attraction, you can increase the odds of getting the girl you are interested in to open up and be receptive to you.  However, not knowing how to build attraction can result in many failures in the dating world.

To build attraction, you have to be confident and assertive. This is a point our therapists continually stress with clients. Confident men are naturally attractive to women. If you are not confident, you will have a hard time attracting women. But confidence can be learned, and you can start displaying confident body language right away.

5. Confident Body Language 

Confident body language includes strong eye contact and an open posture. An open posture means you hold your hands down to your side. Crossing your arms over your chest can make you appear closed off and defensive. However, an open posture will make you appear self-confident and self-assured. When you successfully build attraction, your window to make a move will open. After you build attraction, you can make your intent clear and let the girl know you are interested in her as more than a friend.

Final Thoughts

As you can see, the friend zone can be confusing. It’s important to avoid making a move too soon. However, waiting too long to make a move is also a mistake. The key is to have confidence. If you have confidence, women will naturally be attracted to you. When this happens, the window of attraction will open, and you can voice your intent.